Posted tagged ‘relationships’

hello!

November 10, 2010

I’m still here!  I’m sorely in need of a new blog space and well over due for a fresh start in life.

I have been overwhelmed at work, but life in the real world is still great.  My sweetheart, my love is still amazing.  I couldn’t have created a more perfect person to love.  We are approaching our 1 year anniversary and I am so amazed at how beautiful and wonderful this past year has been with him.  Never in my life would I have imagined meeting a man who is all man, but also all love, and tender care.

Weight loss is the hard part of life.  I’m fat as ever (argh), lol, but I never give up.  I’ve joined Weight Watchers thanks to my Mom (love her).  Now I just have to use it. 🙂

Otherwise, I’m completely disorganized, but having fun.  Hopefully I will have time to invest in the blogosphere again soon.

8 months and counting

August 23, 2010

I’ve a bit overloaded these days, so I haven’t had many of those quiet moments to reflect and post what’s been going on in my life. 

Here are a few quick updates.  Hopefully I’ll have more time soon.

* BF and I are on to our 8th month of dating bliss!  I am so glad to have him.  I’m looking forward to his birthday so I can treat him as special as he has treated me over these past few months.  I don’t wait for birthdays to show him, but I really want to pull out the stops for his birthday.  I love him so much.  It’s so amazing to have someone you can depend on.  A small part of me still wonders if the other shoe will drop; but I’m not letting that evil sister keep me from feeling all the joy and love that I have with BF. 

What’s next for us?  Well, hopefully we can get away soon.  We’ve talked about taking a trip for months, but other priorities get in the way.  I thinking I’m going to take the reigns if we don’t make plans by the end of the year.  Valentine’s 2011 vacay has a nice ring to it. 🙂

*Life otherwise is great.  I still have so much to do – clean my closets, lose weight, save money, travel, grow my hair out more, stop straightening it, blah blah blah – but for now, I’m just keeping up, keeping balanced to maintain my health, and doing what I can when I can.

What’s new with you?

heaven is…

July 30, 2010

…BF in my kitchen cooking me dinner on a Friday night.  *sigh*  Love that man.

resolved

July 26, 2010

I finally thought through the funny feeling I’ve been having and realized what was bothering me.  I needed more.  I am a super affectionate person when it comes to relationships.  I don’t want to get on anybody’s nerves, but I do like to be hugged, kissed, and touched. 

Well, BF is reserved.  He holds my hand, kisses me often, and loves to spoon.  I just want more.  So I told him. 

So this morning as he left for work I got lots of kisses big and small and he got lots of giggles from me.

All is right in the world.

BF and I are so easily compatible, but that is our one difference.  His loving comes in bursts, whereas mine is given all the time.  If I don’t see him for two days, I can count on him grabbing me after we’ve eased into the evening for a passionate kiss.  Me on the other hand, I attack him as soon as he walks through the door and will go nonstop until I wear myself out, lol.  I try to balance myself and not smother him in kisses and I guess he’ll have to work on balancing himself so that I get my kiss/hug/snuggle quota.

A successful relationship really requires great communication.  There are so many needs, vents, jokes, comments, situations, and personalities that play into what happens between two people.  Without good communication, it would be impossible to successfully navigate any of it.

BF and I are locked in solid.  The tide may turn tomorrow, but I can say for sure that we both have our eyes on a future together.  I’m looking forward to every minute.

a reminder

July 20, 2010

I was just reminded that nothing is guaranteed forever, even things that are for a moment in time so very perfect.

BF said the only thing he could see breaking us up was age.  Now I’m sure cheating might make the list, but tonight he said age.  He is 32 (will be 33 in October).  I am 36 (as of June).  He worries we don’t have time.  Translation – he doesn’t have time to establish himself to where he wants to be before marriage.

I know he loves me, but will he one day decide to let me go because of time?  Can all of this be just short of true, unconditional?

I have faith in God’s plan.  What he has given me is something no one can take away, but today I’m left a little bruised, wondering if one day this may all go away – not because we don’t love each other, but because he thinks a job, a savings account or some other materialistic thing defines being ready for a life together.

a beautiful life

July 19, 2010

On Saturday, all my worlds came together.  BF and I met up with my friends and BF’s sister and her husband for a night on the town.  We had so much fun!  As we sat around eating, drinking and laughing; I just felt amazing being surrounded by so much love and friendship. 

Life with BF is so delicious.  I look forward to everything we have ahead of us.  It’s definitely a blessed, beautiful life.

in mourning

July 15, 2010

Today I seem to be mourning my single life.  While I love BF and I am 1 million percent happy being with him, I am finding myself a little sad to have lost my single life.  No more spur of the moment happy hours, late nights, or girls trips – without thinking of someone else.

But then again, no more being on the scene, tired of the same old nothing, wondering when I’ll find love, and wondering if I’ll ever get married.

I’m so glad BF is so consistently what I need.  It makes it easier to move on to this new phase of life.  Having him grab me and kiss me over and over again as he walks into my house – having him take out the trash – seeing him go outside of his comfort zone for me – having his family miss me when I’m not there – having our families like each other so much – having BF there to say, “Don’t worry.” when I wonder if this is really as great as it feels….

While it doesn’t help with mourning my previous fabulousness, it does show me that I am entering a new and amazing fabulousness with BF.  I just have to figure out what this new fab looks like for me – a formerly, perpetually single girl in the City.